dangmichelle:

Just because someone utters a negative statement about themselves doesn’t mean that it’s for the purpose of gaining people’s attention or pity. There are times where it is a blatant cry for attention, but not all the time. If you’re one of those people that always perceive someone’s negativity or harsh criticism on themselves as a craving for attention, then I’m here to dispel that notion for you by telling you that you’re a fucking idiot if you think that and not consider that you may have misinterpreted someone’s self put-downs.

As aforementioned, there are times where it is obvious that the individual is trying to seek attention by putting themselves down. For example, girls who repetitively state how fat they are just to have people tell them they’re not fat so they could feel better about their weight. Or girls who take a bazillion pictures of themselves yet claim to be “insecure.” Uh huh. If you were really insecure, you wouldn’t be documenting your face as much as you do. The examples are countless. 

But.

There are times where the individual is just simply expressing themselves. For example, if I write “I’m feeling depressed today”, it’s simply just for my venting needs. Just because I wrote about being depressed doesn’t give you the right to instantly assume that I’m crying out for someone’s attention. What if I’m diagnosed with clinical depression? Would you know that? Of course not. Because I only stated that I’m feeling depressed, not that I’m actually also diagnosed with it. And it’s not like I also added “Somebody cheer me up.” If I did, then you can assume that I’m seeking attention. 

It really depends on how you interpret it and how the individual presents it. Most people are quick to judge before entirely assessing what they perceive. If someone wrote “God, I’m so ugly. I wish I was beautiful.”, are you going to instantly assume that they want someone’s attention? No. Because what if that’s the genuine view that they have of themselves? You don’t really know. Even if you think it’s a cry for attention, you still shouldn’t criticize it because you don’t truly know whether it is or not. 

To conclude my rambling, I’m just simply trying to point out that not every person that puts themselves down is trying to receive attention. Just because they do it openly doesn’t give you the right to assume that it is a call for attention. What if they’re just trying to seek constructive criticism so they could learn how to improve themselves? What if they’re just writing it out to vent and make it more manageable for them? What if they’re just naturally harsh critics to themselves? The next time that you’re ready to accuse someone of seeking attention, learn how to assess their words and character carefully before you do. And remember that we all have a need for attention, but we just all differ in our ways of trying to receive it. 

No longer stressing.

For now at least…

chelcuuh:

The kind of hug where the person holds you tight and holds you for awhile. While you’re in that person’s arms, you can’t help but to feel special.